Being successful in what we have been pursuing is a sweet victory, as seen by other people. We, on the other hand, know what it takes to be successful. The painful experience of getting the right outcome to the countless number of experiments and the struggle to maintain the motivation for research are some examples of the obstacle that we had to face. Sometime it took us well into the wee hours of the night to wrap up the day’s work and yet it turns out to be completely something else. The struggle was not for a day only but for every single day in the last 3-4 years.It was a long battle but ,in reality, for a researcher it has never been enough. We wanted to do more rigorous experiments, more complete results ,better samples or more time to do this and that. It turns out time is not ours to keep or to extend. Time is a milestone for the journey we are taking. The journey called life.
Fortunately we are not alone in this horrible journey. We can learn from others on how to be on this journey.
There is a research that has been going on for more than 75 years by a group of researchers form Harvard University on What keeps us happy and healthy as we go through life? If you think it’s fame and money, you’re not alone – but, according to psychiatrist Robert Waldinger, you’re mistaken. As the director of 75-year-old study on adult development, Waldinger has unprecedented access to data on true happiness and satisfaction. He shared three important lessons learned from the study:first, social connection is important and loneliness kills, second, in a relationship the quality time spent with your partner is vital and finally, good relationship protects our body and mind. Indeed, good life is built with good relationships.
For the last 50 years, life has taught me many things and redefined the meaning of happiness and sorrow. I learnt to trust people based on a few words you have with them in the first meeting. Sometime when you got it wrong you would end up cleaning the shit. Happiness comes not with laughter but a quiet smile when it touches your heart. Family and friends are the best partners in pursuing happiness.So keep in touch with your family and make new friends wherever you go.Be good with people so they can accompany you in your journey; even though it is just for a brief moment. The difficult part is to make decisions involving people.You will lose many friends over this period and it could be the worst moment of your life.No matter how big your job is or how high your pay is, making right decisions are the risks that will sour your relationship with people. So walk on the thin line cautiously.
Sorrow is not a bad thing actually, it massages your heart and mind to be more accommodative and flexible. When things get tough find a quiet corner at your place and sort it out. Go ahead and cry; you will feel much better afterwards.